Sunday, November 20, 2011
Isn't it really easy to find faults in someone else, but so difficult to look at our own faults?
Assalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi t3ala Wabarakatuhu,
Ibn Abbas (ra) said:
“When you feel the need to mention your companion’s faults, remember your own” [Al-Adab Al Mufrad]
Imam Sufyaan ath-Thawri said:
“Keep yourself busy in remembering your faults, so that you have no time left to remember the faults of others.”
Imam Ahmad was told:
"Over looking people's faults is 9/10ths of good character"
"Rather, it is 10/10ths"
Shaikh Al-Islam Ibn Taimiyah said:
“Some people have the disease of criticizing all the time. They forget the good about others and only mention their faults. They are like flies that avoid the good and pure places and land on the bad and wounds. This is because of the evil within the self and the spoiled nature.”
I found these quotes yesterday online and was thinking how we never really think about ourselves when talking bad about others. I've seen people complain about so and so doing stuff, and they themselves have the same habit. I hope not, but maybe I do it myself, astaghfirullah t3ala. Every human being makes mistakes, everyone sins, nobody is perfect. Maybe X talks to a guy on the phone, but maybe you go to bars? Both are sins, so why criticize her, when you yourself are also sinning, First let go of your sins, pure yourself, then think about others, and what do you know, maybe the person had a very good reason which you do not know of?
I made this post to build an awareness about this habit, because many times we without knowing start to find faults in others, and forget about ourselves.
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: "That person who taunts and ridicules his Muslim brother over a sin from which he has repented, will not die until he himself commits that same sin."
Hamdun al-Qassar, one of the great early Muslims once said:
"If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves [ibid]"
And the words of Imam Jafar as-Sadiq , “If you find see something you don’t like in a brother, try to find 1-70 excuses for him. And if you can’t find an excuse, say ‘There might be an excuse, but I don’t know it.’
Do you think you can think of 70 good excuses for a scenario without accusing your brother/sister in Islam? If not, then dont judge them.
In the next post we'll actually think of a scenario and make our 70 excuses. inshaALLAH t3ala