Hardships....Why is it always me??

Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi t3ala wabarakatuhu,

Not really what I had in mind for my next post, but the need came...dedicated to a sweet friend of mine...(you know who..whoever you are)

There is not a single person in this world who isnt tested, who doesnt go through trials, and everyones trials are different, ALLAH t3ala only tests someone who he knows can survive the test, trials sometimes seem like blessings but arent really, for example someone is given a very very good job in which he earns a lot of money, this too is a trial which most dont know, because everyone will be asked about where they spent their money, so some people waste there money in useless things, some in luxury, some show off with it, some spend it in sins and haram, and there are some who give the poor and needy, and then there are also bad trials like hardships like the divorce, so remember you are not the only one, everyone around you is being tested, the dunya is a test, this life is all a test.

 You are  mashaALLAH loved by ALLAH t3ala, because ALLAH t3ala only tests people

he loves, so trials are like a sign of his love, and they can be for few different reasons: 

- One has lost his relationship with ALLAH t3ala, so ALLAH t3ala wants to reconnect with him

- This is a test from ALLAH t3ala to see how much imaan this person has? If he is bestowed upon will he praise his lord, and

if hardships have befallen him, will he complain? or be patient?

- ALLAH t3ala washes away his sins through these trials

- ALLAH t3ala raises his status in jannah because of these trials and patience.

ALLAH t3ala is wise and everything he does is full of wisdom, this may seem like the biggest problem in the world, or like the end of the world, but there will come a time when you will look back at this time and wont even remember all your pain due to all the happiness. This is your test, this is your time to be patient, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said:

 (mafhoom: انما الصبر عند الصدمة الاولى [inna mas-sabru inda-sadma-til-oola]) Verily patience is in the real beginning of the hardship (which means this is the time to be patient the beginning, not after one sees that they have no choice, and are tired of complaining because they no its not going to help so they end up being patient, but the real patience is in the real beginning and thats the one you will be greatly rewarded for.) 

These hardships are to remind us that this world is not for luxury, or fun, this is a test, we have to keep in mind our purpose of coming into this world, these problems should being us closer to ALLAH t3ala, Dont lose hope, don't lose your trust in ALLAH t3ala, he loves you, and he wants you to come to him and cry, and ask for help, he is listening, he is with you. Complaining or losing hope in everyone wont help you, instead you need to turn to ALLAH t3ala, you need to pass this test, it will pass, it will pass,

and inshaALLAH  in no time, ALLAH t3ala will bestow you with the greatest reward ever. This is nothing compared to what other people go through in this world, nothing...There are children who are homeless, whose parents, family members have passed away, and they are left on the streets, doing labor to live. There are people who are in the hospital with no family member to care for them, in so much pain they just want to die, there are people who are so so ill at home, and dont have enough money to go to the hospital, so they spend nights and days in 24/7 pain and torture. There are old people whose children have grown old and left them, they live all alone, and are too ill to get out of bed, they cant care for themselves, so they just wait and wait for death to take them away with nothing to do. There are people who dont have anything to eat for days, no shelter to be safe, no clothes to cover themselves.

Look at the world, everyone is crying, dont blind yourself with those who are living in haram luxury, you dont know how much they cry for peace or if they can even sleep at night, you dont know what problems they hide, always look at the ones below you, that way you will never complain.

There are sahabiyaat who lost their sons and husband in one day in the path of ALLAH t3ala, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam went through so much pain and so many troubles, we cant even imagine. Prophet ibrahim alaihissalam, prophet yaqoob alaihissalam, prophet yunus alaihissalam, all of

these prophets were human too, they werent angels, they felt all the pain too, but they kept their trust in ALLAH t3ala, they never complained, thats why ALLAH t3ala made them prophets. Read stories about all these prophets, sahabah, our aslaaf...

Remember that ALLAH t3ala loves you, you need to turn to him, try just once, not to complain you pain to anyone, anyone at all, and wake up in the middle of the night, and sit in front of ALLAH t3ala, and tell him everything, every single thing, even though he knows, just share with him and cry, and you will see, how your heart will feel at peace, hand over all your problems to ALLAH t3ala, give him all the control, and watch how he shall fix everything. It may not be right away, but it will definitely happen.

Finally, make lots of dua, and read different duas like 

(حسبي الله و نعم الوكيل [hasbiyallahu wa ni3mal wakeel]: this dua is very very very beneficial)

and (إنا لله وانا إليه راجعون اللهم أجرني في مصيبتي و أخلف لي خيراً منها [inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raajioon allahumma'jurni fi museebati wakhluf li khairan minha]) This is the same dua hadhrat umme salamah radhiyallahu t3ala anha read when her husband passed away, and before that her she used to say I wont read this dua, because where can I ever find a husband better than mines.. so after he passed away, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told her to read it, and guess who she married due to this dua?? The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam! Now tell me, can there ever be a better husband than him? InshaALLAH t3ala you too will get a much much much better husband who shall keep you happy. Verily after difficulty there is ease!

Dont tell herself how big you problems are, but tell your problems how big you rabb ALLAH t3ala is! 

May ALLAH t3ala help you and everyone else, and wash away our sins, and solve our problems/hardships, and give us patience with these problems that we are given, and the greatest award in this world and the hereafter, and replace all you worries and your past with the best husband who will keep you happy, and give you everything you lost in the past, and even more, aameen thumma aameen.