السلام عليكم ورحمة الله تعالى وبركاته،
Many of us depend on people around us, may it be: family, friends, or teachers. We at times even feel like we can't live without so and so person or people. Our life revolves around them, the first thing we think of in the morning and same thought we fall asleep to. We cant resist sharing every single thing with them, and our heart doesn't feel at peace until we pour out our hearts to them.
But the moment they leave us we feel broken, empty, alone...and slowly we learn how to live without them. Yes, the minutes feel like hours, and hours like days, and days like weeks but that's just in the beginning. Before you know it, a day comes when you don't even think about that person, and then you realize: "Wow, I can really live without him/her".
Thats the reality, people will come and go, some we will become really close to, while others will not be able to make a place in our hearts. We might feel like we can't live without so and so but in reality thats what we think. We actually don't really need anyone to live and be happy except ALLAH swt. No on can give us happiness or remove trials and difficulties except him. Its no use to depend on anyone but him. We were not created or brought into this world to make these strong relationships, in fact we were only created to worship ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى.
وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنْسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُوْنِ
(And I have not created the jinn and the humans but to worship me)
The more relationships we have and the more people we let into our lives, the further we will become from ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى, and the more complicated our lives will become. Sometimes we'll delay a prayer due to talking to so and so friend, or we won't be able to complete our aamaal due to being busy with someone, or we may miss our tahajjud because we slept late talking to a friend, our thoughts will be preoccupied with them instead of ALLAH swt. Instead of getting close to ALLAH swt, we will start to become distant.
The thought that happiness can only be achieved through friends is not true, we don't need anyone to be happy, ALLAH swt should be sufficient for us. Don't ever let yourself become dependent upon anyone but him. People come and go, we too will one day go, or someone better than us will come come, and we will be replaced.
Make friends, talk to people, don't seclude yourself but just make sure to leave some space for you and ALLAH swt. Don't let anyone in too much. Always remember everyone will leave us except ALLAH swt, no one can be our true friend but him.
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