Thursday, April 24, 2014
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله تعالى وبركاته،
Many of us depend on people around us, may it be: family, friends, or teachers. We at times even feel like we can't live without so and so person or people. Our life revolves around them, the first thing we think of in the morning and same thought we fall asleep to. We cant resist sharing every single thing with them, and our heart doesn't feel at peace until we pour out our hearts to them.
But the moment they leave us we feel broken, empty, alone...and slowly we learn how to live without them. Yes, the minutes feel like hours, and hours like days, and days like weeks but that's just in the beginning. Before you know it, a day comes when you don't even think about that person, and then you realize: "Wow, I can really live without him/her".
Thats the reality, people will come and go, some we will become really close to, while others will not be able to make a place in our hearts. We might feel like we can't live without so and so but in reality thats what we think. We actually don't really need anyone to live and be happy except ALLAH swt. No on can give us happiness or remove trials and difficulties except him. Its no use to depend on anyone but him. We were not created or brought into this world to make these strong relationships, in fact we were only created to worship ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى.
وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنْسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُوْنِ
(And I have not created the jinn and the humans but to worship me)
The more relationships we have and the more people we let into our lives, the further we will become from ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى, and the more complicated our lives will become. Sometimes we'll delay a prayer due to talking to so and so friend, or we won't be able to complete our aamaal due to being busy with someone, or we may miss our tahajjud because we slept late talking to a friend, our thoughts will be preoccupied with them instead of ALLAH swt. Instead of getting close to ALLAH swt, we will start to become distant.
The thought that happiness can only be achieved through friends is not true, we don't need anyone to be happy, ALLAH swt should be sufficient for us. Don't ever let yourself become dependent upon anyone but him. People come and go, we too will one day go, or someone better than us will come come, and we will be replaced.
Make friends, talk to people, don't seclude yourself but just make sure to leave some space for you and ALLAH swt. Don't let anyone in too much. Always remember everyone will leave us except ALLAH swt, no one can be our true friend but him.
Monday, April 14, 2014
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله تعالى وبركاته
Every time We tell ourselves that this will never happen again, we wont ever let anyone close, and wont ever share our secrets with anyone..but then again it happens. Before you know it someone replaces the empty spot another left...and gradually you forget everything you went through and give your day and night to this person and consider them everything...until such a time comes that they end up tearing your heart like the last one did. After all that trust, after all that you shared, after making them your everything...they also go ahead and tear you apart like you are heartless and then act like they never cared about you in the first place and you never existed, why would they care if you live or die...you were just a time pass, they are bored now, so they'll ditch you within seconds
like you are nothing.
Was this really a one side thing, did they really never care, why didnt I see this coming? All those thoughts running through your mind...the pain..the tears...the regret..the anger...deception...
Sounds painful...especially when the person shows no sign of care...that really, how in the world did I even consider this person a friend, what did I see in them..if someone can do this to me, then I'd rather die than befriend such a person...
But you know what, Im writing this to give glad tidings to those who have felt this or are feeling this..really you are very lucky..may not seem like it but thats because you havent opened your eyes yet. Its okay to let go, we didnt need them anyway. What do they think..they can destroy us, break us without a second thought after all that we shared..Never!
People come and go, some might leave their foot prints but it doesnt take long for footprints to be erased. Its just for a few days..before you yourself will think "why did I even care, who cares let them go, its not like I'll die without them". Once the wounds heal, and you begin to forget...NEVER make the mistake of letting anyone replace that spot. It was emptied for a special reason by a special being. Guess who?
ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'ala!
No he doesnt like causing pain, in fact its your fault that you went through that, theres only one acceptable and good deserving candidate for taking space in your heart, and when you chose the wrong person, this was bound to happen. That candidate is ALLAH subhanallahu wa ta'ala.
Imagine some people coming to your home, and taking over...and starting to live in your house without your position, what will you do?
If your answer is kick them out, you've got my point. This heart is ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'ala's heart, its his home, his property, and only he can live in it. The heart itself can will only be content when its rightful owner resides in it, otherwise it will always feel empty. Now you know why after having that best friend you still felt like somethings missing....
ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'ala emptied that spot for himself, so let him in. He is the only deserving one. Hes the only one that no matter what you do or what happens, he will never ever leave you. Your secrets will remain secrets, your every problem will be solved, your every tear will be replaced with a smile. No matter how many problems you are facing, and how many walls have broken in your face..you will always be content. Dont share your problems with people, they cant do anything, they themselves are weak and rely on ALLAH ta'ala like you. Why go to someone that Has no control, and is just as weak as you. Go to ALLAH ta'ala, share everything with him, talk to him, love him, make him your everything, and just watch....how everything will become yours, and why not?
If the creator, the king of all kings is yours, then everything is yours.
So now wipe those tears away, and smile. For there is someone that loves you, and will never stand you being someone elses, he created you for himself, you are his. So be his and watch the showers of blessings, happiness,and contentment in your life.
Always remember we were born alone, we will die alone, and will be resurrected alone, and there is only one being that will be with us during all these times, that is ALLAH ta'ala, so live according to him, and
watch you will never be alone.
Now why is a heartbreak a blessing?
Its a sign of ALLAH swt's love for you. He wants to be in your heart. He cant stand you thinking about anyone but him. Now tell me if the president of America was to try to seek your attention and
Turn your attention towards him, how happy would you be, how special would you feel??
Now this is not just a president of one country, this is ALLAH swt, the creator of the whole universe! The king of all kings! He wants your attention! This is his call to you!
How is that not a blessing!
Sunday, April 6, 2014
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله تعالى وبركاته
Many a times you will hear things that will really hit you and stay with you for the rest of your life.
Likewisely, someone was telling my mother that he would often look at the scholars calling towards ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى that would give two hour lectures, but he would see them delaying in the coming to pray, yaini they wouldnt be there for the Al-Takbeeratul Oola (التكبيرة الاولى). One day he mentioned this to his brother, and said: "This man is ajeeb, he sits here giving two hour lectures about Islam and following ALLAH ta'alas orders, but he himself is never present for the first takbeer!"
Upon hearing this, his brother called him and said: "Tell me what do flies sit on, they sit on dirt and filth, right? Then why do you share this attribute with flies?? Why do you look at the bad characteristics of a person, and ignore their good ones?!"
Subhana Rabbiyal A'alaa!
How great someone peoples thoughts are!
Unfortunately, This is the reality! We are too busy looking at peoples faults, that we dont even see their qualities. No body is perfect, everyone is striving to become a better person, some people will have some quality while others will lack in it. If we look at ourselves, we'll find thousands of things we lack in. Just because someone has a weakness regarding one thing doesnt make him a sinner or a hypocrite or bad at all! If we all were made perfect, what would the purpose of this life be?
Next time you see someones fault, ignore it and look for the good, and try to make 70 reasons for that characteristic which seems like a fault. You never know, the woman who you see entering a bar, could be just entering to use someones phone for an emergency, or to use the restroom, or open her fast with water, etc....
من اشتغل بعيوب الناس عن عيوب نفسه عمي قلبه وتعب بدنه وتعذر عليه ترك عيوب نفسه فإن أعجز الناس من عاب الناس بما فيهم وأعجز منه من عابهم بما فيه. (ابن حبان البستي)
(Whoever occupies himself with finding others flaws his heart is blinded, his body will be exhausted, and it will be impossible for him to leave his own flaws. The incapacitate is someone who finds the flaws in others, and the more incapacitate than him is he who criticizes other for flaws he himself has.)
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
An emperor was coming out of his palace for his morning walk when he met a beggar. He asked the beggar, "What do you want?" the beggar laughed and said, "You are asking me as though you can fulfill my desire." The emperor was offended. He said, "Of course I can fulfill your desire. What is it? Just tell me." And the beggar said, "Think twice before you promise anything." The beggar was no ordinary beggar. So he insisted, "I will fulfill anything you ask. I am a very powerful emperor, what can you possibly desire that I can not give to you?" The beggar said, "It is a very simple desire. You see this begging bowl? Can you fill it with something?"
The emperor said, "Of course!" He called one of his viziers and told him, "Fill this man's begging bowl with money." The vizier went and got some money and poured it into the bowl, and it disappeared. And he poured more and more, but the moment he would pour it, it would disappear. And the begging bowl remained always empty.
The whole palace gathered. By and by the rumor went throughout the whole capital, and a huge crowd gathered. The prestige of the emperor was at stake. He said to his viziers, "If the whole kingdom is lost, I am ready to lose it, but I cannot be defeated by this beggar."
Diamonds and pearls and emeralds, his treasuries were becoming empty. The begging bowl seemed to be bottomless. Everything that was put into it - everything - immediately disappeared, and went out of existence. Finally it was evening, and the people were standing there in utter silence. The emperor dropped himself at the feet of the beggar and admitted his defeat. He said, "Just tell me one thing. You are victorious - but before you leave, just fulfill my curiosity. What is the begging bowl made of?"
The beggar laughed and said, "It is made up of the human desire. There is no secret. It is simply made up of human desire." Mark my words :
"This understanding transforms one's life. - Take the example of a single desire e;g the desire for a kingdom which gets fulfilled after much effort : First there is a great excitement, great thrill, adventure.
Something is going to happen; you are on the verge of it. And then you have your chariot and your palace and all the diamonds of the world. The whole kingdom is yours.
What happens after some time ? Suddenly all is meaningless again. Your mind has dematerialized it.
The chariot is standing in the driveway, but there is no excitement anymore. The excitement was only in getting it. You became so drunk with the desire that you forgot your inner nothingness. Now the desire is fulfilled, the chariot in the driveway, the diamonds in your very hands - again excitement disappears. Again the emptiness is there, ready to eat you up. Again you have to create another desire to escape this yawning abyss.
That's how one moves from one desire to another desire. That's how one remains a beggar, in reality it is truly you who is the beggar, your whole life proves it again and again - every desire frustrates. And when the goal is achieved, you will need another desire to move you on.
The day one understands that no fulfilled desire in this life is going to end the emptiness in one's heart becomes a turning point in one's life, and one repeats the fulfilling words : " I am content with all that my Lord the most high has provided me"
The other journey is to your Lord which you cannot escape. "He created the heavens and the earth in just proportions and has given you shape, and has made your shapes beautiful: and to Him is the final return."
Noble Qur'an profoundly teaches that: Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest! Noble Qur'an (13:28)
Saying these words the beggar left the king's palace brewing a storm in the hearts of all those who were present.
Ibn 'Abbas رضي الله تعالى عنه narrated:
I heard the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم saying, "If the son of Adam (the human being) had two valleys of money, he would wish for a third, for nothing can fill the belly of Adam's son except dust, and Allah forgives him who repents to Him."
“…So, fight your desires at a time when you can eat. The soul is never satisfied. Satisfying your desires is like satisfying the thirsty person who went to drink water from the sea - the more he drinks, the thirstier he gets, since the water is salty.